Why is it important for the child to experience frustration?
- Sara Rouk
- 15 במאי 2024
- זמן קריאה 2 דקות
What is frustration?
It is important to open and point out that frustration is a normal and very essential emotion in both children and adults.
It is also a complex emotion created when a person encounters an obstacle or difficulty that prevents him from achieving a goal or desire. In general, if you are vigilant you will find that he sometimes meets you too often.
A case from the clinic:
Parents contacted me and shared about their 8-year-old child who feels frustrated by everything, when he loses a game, when a friend doesn't want to play something he wants, when they ask him to tidy up the room, who can't build what he wants, who doesn't understand the lessons he received and more... Share that his behavior activates them and they often feel really angry, guilty, worried, disappointed and helpless. About how we got to this situation that our child does not cope well with difficulties.
What are the causes of frustration?
• The child's inability to express himself (that he is not understood)
• Emotional difficulties
• Social difficulties
• Educational difficulties
• High expectations
• Restrictive and judgmental environment
What do we parents feel (while the child is frustrated)?
To be really honest...we are busy with how it makes us feel at that moment, raise your hand if you also have thoughts like "this child is spoiled", "he won't be able to handle anything in life", "when I was a child my parents threw me into the water and said Be alright honey" and so on.
What do these thoughts do to us?
Negative thoughts of this type can cause us feelings such as: anger, guilt, worry, disappointment and helplessness. About how we got to this situation that our child does not cope well with difficulties.
If you notice how it makes us behave, then here is the biggest and most significant difference, we react according to how we feel.
How do we help children deal with frustration?
• Acknowledge feelings:
• Understanding:
• Communication:
• Modeling:
• Patience:
• Encouragement:
• Play:
• Setting boundaries:
• Use humor
• Seek professional help:
In conclusion
Frustration is an inseparable part of life
With the right guidance and support, children can learn to deal with frustration in a healthy way, develop important life skills and strengthen their mental resilience.
If you encounter difficulties and dilemmas as parents, which is normal and completely understandable!
You are welcome to contact me for a free consultation.